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The Response-Able Educator Newsletter 21
July 31, 2003

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Welcome! This is a free newsletter on becoming a Response-Able teacher and developing Response-Able students.

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MISSION STATEMENT

My mission is to inspire, encourage and uplift the spirits of educators so they can in turn inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of their students.

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IN THIS ISSUE

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1. Quote [back to top]

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"Education has nothing to do with filling a pail, rather it has everything to do with igniting a flame."

----Heraclitus

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2. Definition [back to top]

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WEAPONS OF MASS INSTRUCTION: The testing mania that now has federal
officials in a position to make decisions that include establishing criteria for disciplining schools, removing principals and teachers, and defining appropriate curriculum for American schools.

It appears that the WEAPONS OF MASS INSTRUCTION have obliterated local
control of schools without much of a protest from the victims. Talk about SHOCK AND AWE!

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3. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation [back to top]

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Are you including yourself in those you love today? How are you demonstrating that love?

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4. Fact [back to top]

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One in 8 never graduates from high school.

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5. Manage Your Subscription [back to top]

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A.) If you are receiving the newsletter as a forward and would like to insure that you get your personal free subscription, e-mail ipp57@aol.com and request to be added to the educator newsletter.

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6. Humor [back to top]

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Puns are for children, not groan readers.

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7. Horse story [back to top]

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Common advice from knowledgeable horse people includes the adage, "IF THE HORSE YOU'RE RIDING DIES, GET OFF." Seems simple enough. Makes sense. Yet in the education business we don't always follow that advice. Instead, we frequently choose from an array of alternatives, including the following:

1. Buying a stronger, tougher, larger whip.
2. Switching to a new bit and bridle to ensure increased control.
3. Changing riders.
4. Moving the horse to a new location.
5. Changing the management system by switching trainers.
6. Riding the horse for longer periods of time.
7. Arranging to visit other sites to learn how they ride dead horses more efficiently.
8. Appointing a committee to do a thorough study of the dead horse.
9. Saying such things as, "That's the way we've always ridden dead horses."
10. Increasing the standards for riding dead horses.
11. Creating tests that measure how well we ride dead horses.
12. Complaining about the state of dead horses these days.
13. Blaming the stud and mare that produced the dead horse. (The problem is often in the breeding.)
14. Tightening the cinch.
15. Rewarding riders who can ride dead horses faster.
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8. That Makes Me Mad [back to top]

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That Makes Me Mad

By Chick Moorman

"Students who show up to class without their materials make me mad."

"Talking to parents at Open House makes me nervous."

"It makes me furious to see teachers correcting papers during an inservice program."

Do you use language like the sentences above? If so, you are giving away your personal power by using unself-responsible language. "Makes me" is one of the most commonly used phrases in our culture and a prime example of unself-responsible language. This choice of language helps you believe that something or someone other than you is in control of your responses to life. Every time you use this phrase, you add to the erroneous belief that you are not responsible for your personal reactions to the people and events in your life.

Attributing happiness, unhappiness, or any other feeling to an external source diminishes your sense of personal power. No one can "make" you feel anything. It is simply not possible for someone to create an emotion in you. Emotions are your personal response to an outside act, and they are within your power to control. That control begins with the language you use to describe the situations and events in your life. Using language that continues the illusion that outside forces create your emotional reactions only serves to strengthen your belief that others can "make you."

"What's all the fuss?" you may be wondering. "Doesn't everyone know we control our own emotions? Isn't it clear that 'makes me' is only an idiom? No one takes such usage literally, do they?"

"Makes me" language is not only taken literally, it is also taken seriously. Educators who have attended my RESPECT AND RESPONSIBILITY seminars often argue long and hard that someone can make them angry or sad. "My principal makes me nervous," "Students who don't do their homework irritate me," and "Parents who don't show up for conferences frustrate me" are just a few of the comments participants have offered. These participants are using language that flows from their beliefs. They believe principals can make them nervous, and they choose language that reflects that belief. They believe parents can frustrate them and they speak accordingly.

The beliefs people hold are reinforced by the language they choose. The more they hear themselves speak unself-responsibly, the stronger their beliefs become. The more people believe others can "make them," the less personal power they experience, and the more controlled they are by outside
events and other people.

Your students, too, are caught up in the "makes me" myth. "Math makes me sick," "Reading aloud makes me nervous," and "Mrs. Johnson makes me mad" are samples of unself-responsible student talk I have heard recently. This language style reinforces and strengthens the beliefs students hold that
outside forces can control their emotional reactions to life.

Many of your students use language that reveals they don't realize they control their own attitudes. They think someone else is responsible for their anger, jealousy, boredom, procrastination, irritation, frustration, anxiety, fear, or degree of effort. Until students who are choosing negative attitudes come to believe they alone are responsible for those attitudes, there is little hope they will change. It is for this reason that I have added a section on self-responsible language to many of my one-day seminars and credit courses.

"Makes me" is much more than just an innocent phrase. It is the input you use to program beliefs into your marvelous biocomputer - your mind. Rid your language patterns of unself-responsible language. Talk instead of how you are choosing to feel, or simply report your feelings with an "I statement." "I am feeling depressed" is more self-responsible than "That depressed me." "I'm choosing irritation right now" is more empowering than "He irritates me." Drop "makes me" and its variations from your vocabulary and reclaim your personal power.

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Chick Moorman's "TALK SENSE TO YOURSELF: The Language of Personal Power"
contains words, phrases, and ways of speaking that will increase your sense of personal power. It will help you structure language patterns that put more choice and possibility in your life. Take charge of your life by taking charge of your programming.

The book is available from Personal Power Press for $12.95. To order your copy, call (toll-free) 877-360-1477, or email ipp57@aol.com.

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