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The Response-Able Educator Newsletter 23
September 23, 2003

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Welcome! This is a free newsletter on becoming a Response-Able teacher and developing Response-Able students.

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MISSION STATEMENT

My mission is to inspire, encourage and uplift the spirits of educators so they can in turn inspire, encourage, and uplift the spirits of their students.

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IN THIS ISSUE

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1. Quote [back to top]

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"Children enter school as question marks and leave as periods."

---- Neil Postman

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2. Teacher Talk Seminar Schedule [back to top]

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The Teacher Talk System announces the following open seminars:

Achievement Motivation and Behavior Management (K-12)

Lansing, Michigan, November 19, 2003
Atlanta, Georgia, November 20, 2003
St. Louis, Missouri, November 21, 2003

    • Decrease Discipline Problems
    • Increase Student Motivation
    • Reduce Classroom Power Struggles
    • Increase Student Responsibility for Academic Achievement
    • Learn Practical, Time-Efficient Strategies That Work
    • Add Thinking Questions to All Lessons

Includes many Teacher Talk ideas and the Sounds of Spirit Whispering.

Request a detailed brochure by emailing ipp57@aol.com or calling (toll-free) 877-360-1477.

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3. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation [back to top]

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What if each student in your classroom is filled with undiscovered passion? What if you are the only one who can recognize it? Whose passion do you see today? How will you communicate that?

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4. Fact [back to top]

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Every day in America 17,297 public school students are suspended.

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5. Book Report [back to top]

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"Couple Talk: How to Talk Your Way to a Great Relationship," by Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller, has arrived from the printer. Back orders were mailed September 15th. For those of you who were waiting on your order, thank you for your patience. We are confident you will enjoy this treasury of practical ideas for building a relationship of caring, respect, and intimacy.

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6. Humor [back to top]

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One benefit of being an experienced teacher is that you can make new mistakes while advising others who are making old ones.

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7. In Print: Instructor Magazine [back to top]

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The September issue of Instructor Magazine features "TEACHER TALK: The Nine Key Phrases that Help Motivate, Encourage, and Build Responsibility," by Chick Moorman. On pages 36-39 you will find an explanation of the nine key phrases that help kids gain confidence and learn responsibility. Check your teacher's lounge or media center for a copy of the magazine, and read about the nine easy-to-remember phrases to strengthen your "Teacher Talk." ========================================================

Chick Moorman is available to keynote your fall staff development meeting, conference, or recognition dinner. Contact him at ipp57@aol.com or call (toll-free) 877-360-1477. Full-day seminars include the following topics: "Teaching for Respect and Responsibility," "Achievement Motivation and Behavior Management," and "Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers."

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8. Article: Move Up Before You Move In [back to top]

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By Chick Moorman

David Helter didn't enjoy the note he found on his desk following his absence. He had left his sixth-grade classroom for one day to improve his professional practice by attending my "Teaching for Respect and Responsibility" seminar. He returned the next day and found the following communiqué written by the substitute teacher:

"I had a very frustrating day. I found your class of sixth graders to be immature and disrespectful. I had trouble quieting them down, their listening skills seemed nonexistent, and they frequently put each other down. I gave two students detention notices. Brandon and Justin refused to cooperate, and I finally sent them to the office. Although they were the biggest troublemakers, several other students contributed to the overall negative atmosphere. Some students were cooperative and respectful, but not many. You sure have your hands full here. Good luck the rest of the year."

David read the note three times. He had no trouble visualizing the picture painted by the substitute teacher. Each time he read it, his anger climbed to a new level.

Possible punishments and penalties rushed through his mind. Fragments of lecturebursts formed as he mulled over how to respond to the situation created by his eleven- and twelve-year-old students. As he waited for them to arrive for class that morning, David prepared himself to move in with the words and actions that he felt his students deserved. But it was at this point that he recalled something he had learned at the professional development seminar the day before: "Move up before you move in."

Although the "Move up before you move in" concept had been new to him, David immediately recognized it as a strategy he could use. He knew it could help him be the type of teacher - the type of person - he really wanted to be. While learning it, however, he had had no idea he would be putting it to use so quickly.

What David learned at the seminar was this: Before you move in to deal with a situation, it is important to take time to move up . . . to a higher consciousness, to a higher self. He knew he would have to rise above this particular situation in order to avoid taking it personally. He realized he would have to raise his consciousness in order to free himself from the emotional snarl he had felt when he first read the note. He knew that if he didn't want to add the energy of frustration and anger to the mix, he would have to detach emotionally from the situation. Not wanting to create a struggle, he decided that the most effective way to stay off the battlefield was to rise above it. David decided to "move up" before he "moved in."

David took the last few minutes before his class arrived to put the skills he had learned the day before into practice. He reminded himself not to take this scenario personally. "This is not about me," he told himself. "This is about my students - their behaviors, their beliefs, their choices. It is not a reflection on my teaching or who I am as a human being." He knew if he could disconnect his ego from the events that had transpired, he would be more likely to respond to his students' needs and motivations rather than to his own unconscious needs to influence their actions.

Using another newly acquired skill, David decided to see the situation as perfect. "It's all perfect," he repeated to himself a few times. If his students had been respectful and cooperative, he reasoned, that would have been perfect - the perfect time to celebrate and congratulate them for their behavioral choices. Since they had chosen to be disrespectful and uncooperative, that was perfect too. It was the perfect time to help them look at their behaviors and learn from them. David knew that if he told himself the situation was terrible, awful, and a pain to deal with, he would not be moving up in consciousness. But by realizing the situation was indeed perfect, he continued to ascend.

"What is, is," David thought to himself. He remembered that any time spent wishing, hoping, or "shoulding" ("things should be different") was time that would not be invested in solving the problem. He knew he had to accept the "is-ness" of the situation emotionally before he could effectively search for solutions to improve it.

From his newly created perspective of not taking the situation personally, realizing that it was perfect, and refusing to resist it emotionally, David quickly created a few ideas to present to his class. When the bell rang and his students began filing in, he was ready.

"Please take out a piece of paper," David directed, after the morning routines were completed. "I have several questions I want to ask you concerning the events that transpired yesterday when the sub was here. Please respond privately and nonverbally."

David used the overhead projector to create a continuum numbered from 1 to 10. "Rate yourself on this Respect Scale," he suggested. "Ten means you were respectful the entire day. Zero means you were totally disrespectful. Place an X where you feel you personally belong on the scale. Then write a two-sentence explanation that tells why you placed yourself where you did on the continuum.

"Now do the same thing on another continuum," he continued. "Only this time, think in terms of the entire class. How respectful was the class to the substitute teacher? Once again, give me a two-sentence explanation.

"Next, complete the following three-sentence starters:

I was being respectful when . . .
I was being disrespectful when . . .
One thing I could do to be more respectful next time is . . .

David sat back and watched as his sixth graders struggled with the thinking skills he had set before them. The point of the assignment - self-appraisal, self-evaluation, and self-reflection - was to help his students become conscious of their behaviors on the previous day.

When the students finished writing their responses, David put them in groups to compare and contrast answers. He then heard a report from a spokesperson from each group. Following the reports, David asked students to generate a class list of what they had learned during the activity. The list follows:

    • Some of us were more respectful than others.
    • Most of us could have been more respectful.
    • Some students use a substitute teacher as an excuse to act up.
    • Substitute teachers overreact.
    • One student's behavior can reflect on the entire class.
    • We can do better.
    • It is easier to behave when Mr. Helter is here.

With the list complete, David had each student begin a Respect and Responsibility notebook. Their first entries included their personal responses to the self-appraisal debriefing questions and the class's list of what they had learned. He then had his sixth graders add a paragraph detailing what they intended to do differently next time.

The debriefing now complete, David moved on to social studies. Before he did so, however, he paused a moment to give himself a mental pat on the back to acknowledge his efforts to put what he had learned at the seminar into practice. He liked what he had chosen to do, he liked who he had chosen to be, and he liked the results. He was grateful that he had learned to move up before he moved in.

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Chick Moorman is available to keynote your fall staff development meeting, conference, or recognition dinner. Contact him at ipp57@aol.com or call (toll-free) 877-360-1477. Full-day seminars include the following topics: "Teaching for Respect and Responsibility," "Achievement Motivation and Behavior Management," and "Celebrate the Spirit Whisperers."

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9. Article Reprints [back to top]

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Several of my articles have been surfacing on the Internet with no author listed or, in one case, attributed to another individual. My hunch is that there is no ill intent meant by people who pass on articles they find meaningful. Actually, I'm flattered that educators and parents want to pass on my ideas and articles.

When people ask if they can use my material in their newsletters or to send home to parents, I always grant permission. All I ask is that they add a tagline that identifies me as the author and lets readers know how they can reach me. An example follows:

Chick Moorman is the author of "Spirit Whisperers: Teachers Who Nourish a Child's Spirit" and "Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your Child in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility" (Personal Power Press, (toll-free) 877-360-1477). He publishes FREE e-newsletters for parents and educators. Contact him at ipp57@aol.com to get your free subscription to one or both newsletters.

A complete list of articles available for use in newsletters or other publications can be found on my Web site, www.chickmoorman.com. Click on parent or teacher articles. You have my permission to reprint them along with appropriate credits. Happy sharing.

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10. Thought of the Day [back to top]

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Rules without relationship results in rebellion.

---- Author unknown

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11. Grant Alert [back to top]

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Learn how to apply for and obtain grants to meet some of your professional needs. Check out www.schoolgrants.org, a collection of tips and resources.

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