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The Response-Able Parenting Newsletter 10
January 8, 2003

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Welcome! This is a free newsletter on becoming a Response-Able parent, raising Response-Able children.

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MISSION STATEMENT

My mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including my own), by helping parents learn practical, useable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

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IN THIS ISSUE

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1. Quote [back to top]

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"Making the decision to have a child -- it's momentous. It is to decide forever to have your heart go walking around outside your body."

----Elizabeth Stone

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2. Parent Talk Tip [back to top]

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Tie-Downs

Tie-downs are a way of framing your parent talk so that you get a positive verbal response from your child. They are short phrases you attach to the end of questions to increase your chances of getting an affirmative commitment. Some examples are:

    • "Aren't they?"
    • "Can't you?"
    • "Doesn't it?"
    • "Haven't they?"
    • "Isn't that correct?"

Use tie-downs during discussions when you want to build an avenue of yeses They will help your effectiveness in building momentum toward agreement.

"So you chose not to do your homework, didn't you?"
"Yes."
"That violated our agreement, didn't it?"
"Yes."
"You can guess what that means, can't you?"
"Yes."
"A weekend night at home was our agreement for a decision to skip homework, wasn't it?"
"Yes."
"Then you won't be surprised when I follow through on our agreement, will you?"
"No."

Tie-downs are a gentle way to lead your child toward agreement and remind your child of obligations and agreements. Using them in your parent talk will help you have fewer arguments and experience less resistance.

You will start using this technique, won't you?

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"Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound" is a 280-page hardback book by Chick Moorman. It is available through Personal Power Press at (toll free) 877-360-1477 or ipp57@aol.com.

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3. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation [back to top]

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What if you created the parenting situation you face today to give yourself the opportunity to express the grandest version of who you really are? If that were true, how would you choose to be?

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We are currently looking for people to become trainers in The Parent Talk System. If you interested in making a difference in your community and would you like to bring effective parenting to the parents and children in your school, church, group, or neighborhood, this training could be for you. The next Training of Trainers is July 25-27 in Dearborn, MI. Request a brochure and additional information at ipp57@aol.com.

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5. Humor [back to top]

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Did you hear about the parent who considered home schooling but then realized her children would be home all day?

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6. Book News [back to top]

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New Year Gift Ideas

"Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound," $24.95, 280-page hardback, chock full of Parent Talk parenting strategies for raising response-able children.

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We fill orders the day they arrive. Order (toll-free) at 877-360-1477.

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7. Opportunity To Do Something Extraordinary [back to top]

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There are 9 days left to join a select group of people who are working to improve family life in their communities. Consider becoming a Parent Talk System facilitator. Our 3-day skill-based training will help you assist parents to learn communication strategies that will build love and trust within their families. You will help yourself as well as others learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

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January 16-18, 2003

Email ipp57@aol.com for a full brochure and registration materials. For direct inquiries, call (toll free) 877-360-1477.

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8. Article [back to top]

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Sweeping Sand

By Robert Roden

When my five children were young, a sandbox was standard backyard equipment. The problem was that it was messy. I was willing to endure the mess in the yard and even the inconvenience of having to pick up various sandbox toys when I was cutting the grass.

What really frustrated me was the kids' insistence on carrying sand into the garage for various "projects." Although I told them repeatedly to keep the sand out of the garage, they continually "forgot." Week after week I became increasingly upset as I kept sweeping up the sand and returning it to its proper container.

My anger intensified until one day, sweeping furiously -- and venting my frustrations to myself equally furiously -- an internal voice interrupted. It said simply, "One day you'll wish you had sand to sweep out of the garage."

 

(To access similar articles check out www.chickmoorman.com/swideas.html.)

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To find out more about workshops, seminars, and keynote addresses presented by Chick Moorman contact him at toll free, 877/360-1477 or email IPP57@aol.com

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