Use tie-downs during discussions when you want to build an avenue of
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"You can guess what that means, can't you?"
"A weekend night at home was our agreement for a decision to skip homework,
"Then you won't be surprised when I follow through on our agreement, will
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By Robert Roden
When my five children were young, a sandbox was standard backyard equipment.
The problem was that it was messy. I was willing to endure the mess in
the yard and even the inconvenience of having to pick up various sandbox
toys when I was cutting the grass.
What really frustrated me was the kids' insistence on carrying sand
into the garage for various "projects." Although I told them repeatedly
to keep the sand out of the garage, they continually "forgot." Week after
week I became increasingly upset as I kept sweeping up the sand and returning
it to its proper container.
My anger intensified until one day, sweeping furiously -- and venting
my frustrations to myself equally furiously -- an internal voice interrupted.
It said simply, "One day you'll wish you had sand to sweep out of the