"Friends should definitely be wary about criticizing a child-raising
practice without being asked. Often it is wiser to poke cobras with sticks."
----Anthony E. Wolf
VERBAL: Able to whine in words.
3. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation [back to top]
What if the best answer you have today to the parenting concern that
troubles you is just being there? Will you be fully present? Will you
content to let that be enough?
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Seen in a motel parking lot in Rapid City, South Dakota:
It's 10:00 P.M.
Do you know which Web site your children are on?
5. Make a Difference in Your Community [back to top]
Take a giant step toward helping the parents in your community. Become
a skilled facilitator of the Parent Talk System by attending one of our
upcoming training opportunities this fall or winter.
Join the growing number of people from around the world (USA, Mexico,
Spain) who are learning how to help parents raise responsible, caring,
confident children. We will help you learn to put the highly effective
PARENT TALK skills into the hands of parents in your church, school, or
You will leave this three-day training with the skills and confidence
to touch the hearts and minds of parents in your community!
Parent Talk System Trainings:
1. Ithaca, NY
November 10, 11, 12, 2003
Trainer: Chick Moorman
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February 5, 6, 7, 2004
Trainers: Chick Moorman and Sarah Knapp
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6. The Wisdom of Children [back
"When you want to stay home from school, you have to stay in the
bathroom a long, long time."
----Joseph, age 11
60% to 80% of adult sex offenders begin offending as adolescents.
Found in the background of most adolescent sex offenders is a history
of physical abuse, sexual abuse, neglect, or family violence.
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8. Article: "Baby Talk" [back to top]
By Chick Moorman
When do babies begin to understand language? Maybe it's three months.
Perhaps one month. Maybe they understand language on some level after
week. Understanding might even occur before birth. No one knows for sure.
One thing is certain, though: The communication pattern you establish
your baby before birth and immediately after sets the stage for the
lifetime of communication that follows. So talk to your baby before birth
and immediately after. Lovingly, soothingly share your feelings and desires
with your baby.
Before birth, tell your baby:
"We are waiting for you. We want you and look forward to your arrival."
"We have a room all ready for you. We want you to feel as safe on
outside as you do on the inside."
"You have selected loving parents. We love you so much. You have
brought incredible joy into our lives."
"We are a little nervous about your birthing. We intend to make
it as easy
on you as we can."
"We wonder what you'll think of all this light, action, and attention.
wonder if you'll want to run right back to where you came from."
"This world will be a lot different from where you came from. We
our best to help you adjust and find your way."
"We are reading books and articles on the Internet so we can be
parents to you. We have so much to learn. We will learn from you and with
"We are going to do our best to allow you to grow into the very
that you can be. We have no preconceived notions of how you should be."
"You are welcome in our lives. You will change our lives in ways
we are not
even aware of. Although that's a bit scary to us, we love you immensely!"
After birth, tell your baby:
"We are so glad you are here. We love you very much."
"If we can make your first few days easy, we will do it. We will
and feed you and sing to you and hope that eases your transition."
"Sometimes we're not sure what you want and we feel helpless. But
keep right on loving you as we learn about you and your needs."
"There is a little child in each of us who needs to feel loved too.
remember to love and nurture both you and our inner children."
"You are such a beautiful, sweet baby. We feel so honored to be
"We are so happy and also scared. Help us learn to be less scared
"What a blessing you are to our family! We are so glad you are finally
here. You were certainly worth the wait."
No one knows for certain if your child understands the words you speak.
matter. Talk as if your baby does understand. Add appropriate gestures
facial expressions. Touch. Snuggle. Sing the words. Be loving as you speak
to your baby. Keep your feelings congruent with your words. In time your
baby's reactions will convince you that your words are getting through.
Chick Moorman is the author of "Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your
Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility" and
Whisperers: Teachers Who Nourish a Child's Spirit." (Available from
Personal Power Press at (toll-free) 877-360-1477.)
Last night my wife and I took our two children to our daughter's elementary
school open house to meet new teachers. During a break, I took our three-year-old
son into the library. The librarian began a conversation with me, so I
took that as an opportunity to tell her about your PARENT TALK book. She
hadn't heard of it.
After listening to me rave about PARENT TALK and tell a few stories about
how I use the skills with my children, she took down your name and contact
information. She is in charge of the school's book fair and says she'll
be ordering copies to promote at the upcoming book fair. Pretty cool,
Curt from California
Yes, very cool! Thanks. Tell her I'll give her a quantity discount if
she orders 20 or more. I appreciate your efforts.
Quantity discounts on PARENT TALK are available by calling Personal Power
Press at (toll-free) 877-360-1477. Ask for the Book Fair Special.
10. Question and Response [back
I read your PARENT TALK book and have been using it with my daughter,
who is almost ten. When she asks for help with her schoolwork or with
anything else and I tell her I feel she is able to do it, she accuses
me of not wanting to help her. Yesterday she told me I was being mean
by not helping her.
I am not sure how to respond to this situation. I did explain to her
that I wanted to help her learn to do things on her own, but she doesn't
understand this. Can you help?
Dear Ruthann's Mother,
Helping and "doing for" are two different things. Sometimes
kids need help getting started. They may not understand a problem, they
may have difficulty reading a word, or they may be unclear about directions.
If you can show Ruthann an example, do one problem for her, or explain
in your own words what the directions call for, it might be all the help
Give help to your child if she needs a boost to get started or definitely
does not know how to do the task at hand. Then she can be on her own.
If she gets stuck again, help her by asking questions, pointing to an
example, or assisting her to think the problem through. Obviously, the
goal is to have her do most of the work herself.
If you suspect your child needs attention more than help, suspend homework
temporarily and do something together - read a story, play a game, toss
the football around, or go for a walk. After connection has been achieved,
she may be able to focus more easily on her studies.
Another strategy I recommend is the "act as if" or "pretend
you can" idea presented in PARENT TALK.
11. Newsletter for Partners [back
To celebrate the publication of our new book, "Couple Talk: How to
Talk Your Way to a Great Relationship," Thomas Haller and I have
decided to create a newsletter for couples. This monthly venture, called
"Couple Talk," will be similar to the parent newsletter you
are currently reading. Thomas will edit the newsletter, and I will contribute
articles and tips from time to time.
To subscribe to "Couple Talk," email email@example.com and ask to be added to the Couples Newsletter.
12. Managing Your subscription [back
A.) If you are receiving the newsletter as a forward and would like
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C.) Back issues of the Response-Able Parenting Newsletter can be found here.
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