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IN THIS ISSUE
- Parent Talk Tip
- Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
- Managing your Subscription
- Book News
- Opportunity To Do Something Extraordinary
- Article: "Hail! The Boy King"
"An adolescent does not rebel against his parents. He rebels against
their power. If parents would rely less on power and more on nonpower
methods to influence their children from infancy on, there would be little
for the child to rebel against when he becomes an adolescent."
"Who do you want to be?"
We do not ask our children this question as it relates to potential
career choices, job opportunities, or occupational preferences. Rather,
it is a question about values: we ask our children who they want to be
in relation to the events and circumstances that surround them. Asking
this question of our children helps them stay awake in terms of the decisions
they make. It invites them to think seriously about who they are choosing
If your son wonders what to do regarding another child who is getting
picked on at school, ask him, "Who do you want to be in this situation?"
If your daughter found some money and is unsure what to do with it,
ask her, "Who is it that you want to be here?"
Once we decide who we want to be, decisions about what to do are easier
to make. Help your children focus on who they want to be before they decide
what they want to do in a given situation.
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How would it change your day if you interpreted misbehavior as a call
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"The first half of our life is ruined by our parents, and the second
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Sneak preview announcement...
Simon and Schuster will be publishing a paperback edition of "Parent
Talk" in March 2003. A Fireside Original, the book will be entitled "Parent
Talk: How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem
and Encourages Responsibility." The paperback version, selling for $13.00,
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7. Opportunity To Do Something Extraordinary [back to top]
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to improve family life in their communities. Consider becoming a Parent
Talk System facilitator. Our three-day skill-based training will help
you assist parents to learn communication strategies that will build love
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Hail! The Boy King
By Ben Burton
At the lake I saw a young daddy teaching his kids to fish. Just a boy,
really, but in the eyes of his young children, a king! The scene flashed
me back in time to another young father out with his children. For I,
too, was once a boy king.
For a moment I envied the young father this priceless time and privilege
--- there was a time like this when my children knew that I knew all,
that I could do anything and everything. What a crowning feeling! But
what an obligation! Like this boy, I was unaware of the latter.
How can any father misuse these defining moments in his children's lives?
For them, even the tiniest fish, a trophy; even the weakest and most selfish
father, a king. Isn't this young man conscious that he is weaving lifetimes
here, his every attitude a warp, his every inflection a woof? No, I conclude,
the boy/man is unaware of this greater role.
Trouble is, this young father, though "king" to his children, still
has a lot of boy in himself; he is still a boy seeking his own trophy,
hunting his own crown. Nevertheless, he is molding his children's memories
and attitudes and lives-and their own parenting skills --- right now.
I decide that I don't envy this young father his imposing responsibility
after all --- nor begrudge him his numbness to it. Not knowing that he
isn't yet up to this awesome job, the boy is eager to keep it all. All
the while his children see him as the best king ever.
Nature is merciful that way; compensating both ends of the parent-child
relationship. Patient, too.
This boy king will need much practice and faithfulness. And luck. Didn't
we all? The key is that he, with his boundless exuberance, is here this
day with his children. And that alone is a beautiful start.
(Reprinted from "Where the Heart Is: Stories of Home and Family," edited
by Chick Moorman. Available for $15.00 from Personal Power Press. Contact
firstname.lastname@example.org or call (toll-free) 877-360-1477.)
(To access similar articles check out www.chickmoorman.com/swideas.html.)
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