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The Response-Able Parenting Newsletter 9
November 27, 2002


Welcome! This is a free newsletter on becoming a Response-Able parent, raising Response-Able children.



My mission is to strengthen families and improve parent communication skills (including my own), by helping parents learn practical, useable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.




  2. Parent Talk Tip
  3. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation
  4. Managing your Subscription
  5. Humor
  6. Book News
  7. Opportunity To Do Something Extraordinary
  8. Article: "Hail! The Boy King"


1. Quotes [back to top]


"An adolescent does not rebel against his parents. He rebels against their power. If parents would rely less on power and more on nonpower methods to influence their children from infancy on, there would be little for the child to rebel against when he becomes an adolescent."

----Thomas Gordon


2. Parent Talk Tip [back to top]


"Who do you want to be?"

We do not ask our children this question as it relates to potential career choices, job opportunities, or occupational preferences. Rather, it is a question about values: we ask our children who they want to be in relation to the events and circumstances that surround them. Asking this question of our children helps them stay awake in terms of the decisions they make. It invites them to think seriously about who they are choosing to be.

If your son wonders what to do regarding another child who is getting picked on at school, ask him, "Who do you want to be in this situation?"

If your daughter found some money and is unsure what to do with it, ask her, "Who is it that you want to be here?"

Once we decide who we want to be, decisions about what to do are easier to make. Help your children focus on who they want to be before they decide what they want to do in a given situation.


"Parent Talk: Words That Empower, Words That Wound" is a 280-page hardback book by Chick Moorman. It is available through Personal Power Press at (toll free) 877-360-1477 or


3. Spirit Whisperer Contemplation [back to top]


How would it change your day if you interpreted misbehavior as a call for help rather than as misconduct? In what ways would that interpretation alter your responses?


We are currently looking for people to become trainers in The Parent Talk System. If you interested in making a difference in your community and would you like to bring effective parenting to the parents and children in your school, church, group, or neighborhood, this training could be for you. The next Training of Trainers is July 25-27 in Dearborn, MI. Request a brochure and additional information at


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5. Humor [back to top]


"The first half of our life is ruined by our parents, and the second half by our children."

----Clarence Darrow


6. Book News [back to top]


Sneak preview announcement...

Simon and Schuster will be publishing a paperback edition of "Parent Talk" in March 2003. A Fireside Original, the book will be entitled "Parent Talk: How to Talk to Your Children in Language That Builds Self-Esteem and Encourages Responsibility." The paperback version, selling for $13.00, will feature an expanded introduction and will contain all the phrases presently contained in the hardback edition. It will be available in bookstores on March 1st.


7. Opportunity To Do Something Extraordinary [back to top]


There's still time to join the select group of people who are working to improve family life in their communities. Consider becoming a Parent Talk System facilitator. Our three-day skill-based training will help you assist parents to learn communication strategies that will build love and trust within their families. You will help yourself and other parents learn practical, usable verbal strategies for raising responsible, caring, confident children.

Two winter trainer training sessions in the Parent Talk System are currently scheduled:

Austin, Texas
January 9-11, 2003

Grand Rapids, Michigan
January 16-18, 2003

Email for a full brochure and registration materials. For direct inquiries, call (toll free) 877-360-1477.


8. Article [back to top]


Hail! The Boy King

By Ben Burton

At the lake I saw a young daddy teaching his kids to fish. Just a boy, really, but in the eyes of his young children, a king! The scene flashed me back in time to another young father out with his children. For I, too, was once a boy king.

For a moment I envied the young father this priceless time and privilege --- there was a time like this when my children knew that I knew all, that I could do anything and everything. What a crowning feeling! But what an obligation! Like this boy, I was unaware of the latter.

How can any father misuse these defining moments in his children's lives? For them, even the tiniest fish, a trophy; even the weakest and most selfish father, a king. Isn't this young man conscious that he is weaving lifetimes here, his every attitude a warp, his every inflection a woof? No, I conclude, the boy/man is unaware of this greater role.

Trouble is, this young father, though "king" to his children, still has a lot of boy in himself; he is still a boy seeking his own trophy, hunting his own crown. Nevertheless, he is molding his children's memories and attitudes and lives-and their own parenting skills --- right now.

I decide that I don't envy this young father his imposing responsibility after all --- nor begrudge him his numbness to it. Not knowing that he isn't yet up to this awesome job, the boy is eager to keep it all. All the while his children see him as the best king ever.

Nature is merciful that way; compensating both ends of the parent-child relationship. Patient, too.

This boy king will need much practice and faithfulness. And luck. Didn't we all? The key is that he, with his boundless exuberance, is here this day with his children. And that alone is a beautiful start.

(Reprinted from "Where the Heart Is: Stories of Home and Family," edited by Chick Moorman. Available for $15.00 from Personal Power Press. Contact or call (toll-free) 877-360-1477.)


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